A response to Graydancer’s “Rant”
So today Graydancer, the ninja sex poodle and ronin of love of Ropcast.net fame, posted a rant in his podcast that I’ve been waiting for since Sunday night of Black Rose.
You can find said “rant” HERE.
Now, I don’t know about you, but when I think “rant” I think Denis Leary and Lewis Black, not a well reasoned observation and conclusion to be responsible about what one teaches. So, on the “rant” front, kind of disappointing.
I’ll give you the Cliffs Notes for context, but you should listen to what he has to say on your own. His basic thesis is this: General Pansexual Kinky Events – such as Black Rose, TES-Fest, Dark Odyssey, etc – are not the place to teach suspension.
He gives several supporting evidence for this, such as poor control as to making sure that the people who come to the 2nd half of a class go to the 1st half. Another notable observation he makes is that people who don’t even know if they like rope at all are going to these classes, completely skipping over 101 and going right to grad school (my phrasing, not his).
Where I disagree is that the answer is (for him) to not teach rope suspension at these events at all.
My first reason for disagreeing is this – often these events are the only exposure people get beyond their tiny local scene to people who REALLY know what the fuck they are doing. It is REALLY difficult for the much group in the middle of Armpit, Virginia to afford the travel, lodging, and expenses of bringing out a BIG name to teach an all day suspension workshop. So individuals from those areas go to the big weekend events to learn all they can to bring back to the community.
Plus, though there are an increasing amount of big events, even rope specialty events, they are expensive. Most people can only afford ONE per year, if that. Often the choice to go to an event is mitigated by location (as in how much will it cost to get there AND how long will it take),who will be there (not just presenters, bu friends as well), if it caters to their interests, and if they can affords the price of admission, hotel, and food.
So, while it’s all well and good to say “I’m not teaching at pansexual events anymore”, all you are doing is penalizing the people who can’t afford Pansexual Event X AND Super Rope Ninja Event Y who crave this knowledge.
I think there is a better way to go about it.
When you propose a suspension class, or are asked to give a suspension class, be very firm about the time, requirements, and format. You need a minimum 4 hour block for the entire class, with NO late admittance? ASK FOR IT!
There is NOTHING that says that if a event wants you, they can’t cater to what YOU need to feel you have done an adequate job teaching the subject. I would go so far as saying, especially given the risky nature and physical demands of rope suspension, it is your responsibility as a teacher to be as clear and direct with what you need to deliver the class the event expects from you.
And if they say “well we can’t give you that much time?” You tell them, then I can’t teach people how to get someone up in the air. What you CAN teach is a “preparing for suspension” class that goes over all the things ‘ranted’ about in the podcast.
I.E. Make sure you LIKE rope first.
Try “flying” on the floor first.
Try seeing if you can handle being pulled just by someone holding the rope.
Seek out 1 on 1 hands on training.
And so on and so on.
What I am getting at is a suspensi0n class doesn’t HAVE to be about getting off the ground in fancy ancient secret ninja sex poodle ties. It can BE about the mindset needed. That you can get silly and still have it hot. Even the ties that can be used eventually for suspension rigging, but are pretty damn fun just wearing and using as handles.
(I mean, really, a drum harness alone had me going!)
So yes, I agree, there is a problem. And I agree with Mollena Williams that as long as conventions offer the “beginning rope suspension” type class in a 1.5 hour format, the problems will continue.
But I don’t think the answer is walking away from the game. I think responsible presenters need to demand a change in the rules.
Because irresponsible presenters will happily fill your shoes if you don’t.
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I think you bring up some really good points here – and a class on “the mindset of suspension” is a good idea, maybe as a precursor. And attendance/roll call would work for enforcement.
That being said, I disagree on the “Only have money for one event” part. Simply because I have proven, almost 10 times, that ANY locale can create a rope event for as little as $10/person, in the form of a GRUE. The MOST expensive GRUE has been $50/person, and since they’re local, costs for travel and lodging are negligible.
So if you WANT suspension classes, have a GRUE.
Comment by Graydancer — November 19, 2009 @ 4:48 pm
Ok, but is a GRUE a GRUE without YOU?
If not, well, then there’s an issue. A big event in a metropolitan city on it’s best day is like herding cats. In a middle of nowhere place without a major transportation hub, it’s like herding badgers. Rabid badgers.
I like the Un-conference idea. I like that it’s gaining steam in forms of GRUEs and KFAs and Sex2.0s. But they are still mostly happening near major metropolitan hubs where the politics are, frankly, a little more “blue”.
Having a GRUE concept for areas, like the South East and Deep South, is a nice idea but unfortunately, those localities by there nature lend themselves to a LOT of paranoia and secrecy in their scenes. So again, the people who live there go to events like BR when they can to bring back their knowledge to the group.
Comment by Margo Eve — November 19, 2009 @ 5:17 pm
I agree about a Preparing for Suspension class (and, as Mollena said, I’d love to see this covered from the bottom as well). I also think it could be made really clear in the description for those four-hour suspension classes that they’re for people experienced with rope who are ready for an advanced technique — and if that’s not true of you, or you showed up without bothering to read the class description, you get kicked out in the first five minutes (or are allowed to stay but have to watch, not participate). Ditto showing up for the second part of a two-part class if you skipped the first. I know not everyone reads class descriptions at events, but frankly I think they should, and that you’re covered if you put the requirements in them.
Comment by V. — November 19, 2009 @ 7:05 pm
You miss the point its not only a grue its a simple matter to create a rope event period.
While setting up a serious space and time for teaching said class is a great idea, the issue wasn’t that it was that venues like BR or TES-FEST are generally bad for this.
Most events will not set aside that much class time unless you happen to be a TOP TOP name. They are more interested in doing many small classes. As a presenter I’ve actually told events what some of my classes require and been told to pare them down to fit the arbitrary slot they have decided on.
Well time for people to organize them in the less blue areas.
Comment by Dov — November 19, 2009 @ 8:33 pm
@Dov It’s very easy when you live in a very “blue” area to say an “red” area should start organizing their own GRUE. With things like Fetlife, this may be easier as time goes on.
But I can tell you this, having lived in a very conservative, small (less than 100 people), scene area this is easier said than done. And I wasn’t even in the MOST conservative area of the south. It’s a completely different mindset than NY, DC, Chicago, San Fran. The entire FEEL of the communities are different. More closed. More secretive. MUCH more xenophobic (both to people and ideas). You can’t just “show up” to things, you have to be brought in.
So, it’s great to say “Go organize this” – but it has to come from within those areas. And things change much slower outside the cities. MUCH slower.
Comment by Margo Eve — November 20, 2009 @ 1:58 am